Those who know me know that I love a good debate. Probably
*too* much actually! I am not a fan of suppressing opinions,
and often try to elicit them from people I *know* will
unload on me with both barrels...because even though
it's unpleasant, I appreciate honesty and facts.
Not advocating flames here, btw. Talking about forums like
mudmagic and TMC, and the old gjs, where I've traded barbs
with the roughest of them.
What I do have trouble handling is people who are being
ignorant and difficult just to be ignorant and difficult.
That is really, really hard for me to take. People who
do not argue from good faith, or who refuse to acknowledge
fact when confronted with it...this stuff is hard for
me to deal with.
The reason I'm saying this stuff is that it occurred to me
today that I am feeling a bit too imperious. I banned
someone today, and then questioned what it looked like
from the other end. Suppose that person had been honestly
just expressing an opinion, and not being deliberately
oppositional for negativity's sake?
It occurred to me that as lib maintainer, forum admin, and
i3 router admin, it might seem like I'm simply not open
to arguments. And that seriously worries me. I *want* people
to tell me when I'm being foolish, because I'm human, and
so foolish by nature.
I don't want people to think that they can only say happy things
to me, because that's not right.
Fortunately, today people felt free to tell me that I'd
gone too far. I think that's correct, and I thank them for it, and I
want everyone to know that I'm not looking for approval and agreement
from people. Just honesty and reason.